#⭐ve better

[gravytrainnaturebornn]

the power of self-talk in the fight against self-sabotage (for binge-eaters and ppl who have never been skinny🫶)

disclaimer: this is not proana. this is for people who struggle with binge eating as a form of self-sabotage, emotional comfort, self harm, etc. overeating can cause just as much harm physically and mentally as undereating. please be safe. now, on with the show!

weight loss, but specifically extreme weight loss, equals change. change equals discomfort, so people tend to subconsciously avoid change. this is why starting to see progress on the scale or your body can trigger the urge to self-sabotage that progress and binge eat.

for people who have been big their whole lives, that fear is heightened by the fact that being thin is completely uncharted territory. by following through, youre entering a new world that youve never navigated before. your brain might get scared, say its much too big a mountain to climb, and tell you to give up. its easier to say fuck it because for most people, unhappiness is a comfort zone. if youre used to hating your body and wanting it to change, then actually *changing* it poses a very serious threat to your comfort and the lifestyle youre used to.

questions like: "what if i reach my goal and im still unhappy/unattractive?" "what if i dont look like myself?" "what if i reach my goal, cant sustain it, and then i gain it all back and humiliate myself?" can all make someone feel anxious about succeeding in their weight loss journey. and for people with overeating issues, this is a big trigger for binge episodes.

so how do you combat this instinct to self sabotage? well, im not a psychologist so take this with a grain of salt, but for me it helps to soothe these subconscious fears and train the brain to fight these urges. self-talk and thought-correction play a HUGE role in rewiring the pathways in your brain that lead you to bingeing. truly, practice and consistency are the only things that are going to cause a big change, so stick with it !

correcting problematic thoughts *immediately* when they form is key to preventing problematic behavior in the future, and that starts with being able to identify those thoughts. the moment you catch yourself thinking about food, cut yourself off with a correction. maybe even think about food on purpose a few times to practice recognizing and correcting it.

for example, if you just ate an hour ago, chances are youre not actually hungry yet. tell yourself that as soon as you realize youre thinking about food. i like to tell myself "i dont need to eat, and im not gonna sabotage myself by eating that." by acknowledging it and calling it what it is--literally an attack, by my brain, on my own progress--i immediately attach a sense of accountability to the actions that follow. there's no deniability. its no longer a passive choice. theres no mindless eating or "i wasnt thinking about it." if i eat after acknowledging the act of eating as self-sabotage, then that is me *actively* choosing self-sabotage over self-control. accountability alone can change a lot if you let it.

what i tell myself changes depending on the situation, but i find that repeating some of these phrases throughout the day helps to fight urges in general, and certain ones help for specific cravings and situations.

below are some examples of things i tell myself that have helped me fight the urge to self sabotage. they dont all have to be true when you first say them, the point is training your brain to think a certain way. it may feel unnatural at first, but the more you say them the more natural it becomes, until eventually it becomes apart of the way you actually think and you dont have to work so hard at it. remember: consistency. is. key.

okay ill stop blabbing! here:

•i allow myself to be thin.

•i accept the change that comes with losing weight.

•i am ready to see myself differently and cope with any complicated feelings that may come with it.

•i am prepared for my body to change.

•i will deal with my wardrobe when the time comes, and im not afraid of dressing differently for my new body.

•i will adjust to my new dietary needs and appetite when i reach my goal weight. i will not always be hungry; eating less will be my new normal, and i will be okay.

•i am not afraid of being hungry.

•food does not comfort me, nor does it solve my problems or make me feel better.

•i am ready to navigate a life that looks different to the one im living now.

•i am not afraid of reaching my goal. if i do feel afraid, i am confident in my ability to work through difficult feelings and continue towards my goal.

•im not going to sabotage myself by eating that.

•i accept that people will perceive me differently, and i am ready to navigate that change.

•i am prepared to receive comments about my weight loss.

•i am not afraid of getting what i want.

•i believe i deserve what i want, and im dedicated to working towards getting it.

•i am capable of adapting to new routines and habits.

•fear is not a reason to give up, and i will continue to work even if the possibility of change makes me uneasy.

•i am prepared to face the future, even though i do not know what it looks like.

•i allow myself to make mistakes, and i will not use them as an excuse to quit.

•my long-term satisfaction is more important than what i want in this moment.

•i am in control of my actions and i am capable of resisting the urge to binge.

•i allow myself to have the body i desire.

•i allow myself to change.

•i allow my life to look different and i am not afraid to see a new person in the mirror.

•i am excited to reach my goal, and prepared to navigate any changes that come with it.

•i am ready to meet and introduce others to the new me.

[stitchywitchymermaid]

Worst part of my job is i work A LOT with ages 15 and up and so many teens are just soooooo skinny. 💀

I look at them like they're thinspo and then feel really weird because i know they're underage, but, damn im so jealous. 🙄😖

But its also like looking at thinspo without anyone knowing or having to open Tumblr. 😅

[mfhasadhd]

[spiralingguitarist]

i am not anorexic and neither do i have an eating disorder but

i need to lose this estrogen

i need to lose those breasts

i need to lose those thighs

i need to lose that so called "nice ass" (its not nice)

i need to lose that endometrium

i need to lose those eggs

i need to lose that fertility

i need to be sickly skinny, i want to be androgynous, really. i don't need all that femininity at all, i dont need to suffer like this.

i get misgendered every day don't i? I'm a little trender bitch, i am massive. i hate all thay fat i have, estrogen is an horrible hormone. it has made me felt i was made solely to have kids.

i need a new purpose.

my new purpose is to pass. to be a sickly skinny enby child!

[fulllighttrash2]

who else gets really into self care when they're deep in their ed's 💀💀

like I'm doing my skin care routine, I've got perf oral hygiene, I'm using body butters, moisturisers, exfoliants, I'm shaving regularly

sometimes I feel it's better for me to just ⭐ve

[n0va342]

Everything is going to be ok, you just need to ⭐ ve and everything will be ok, it's gonna get better you just need to ⭐ ve.

[ask-stan-and-ford]

Heyyy, you two! I'm Cy. Pher. Cy Pher. Unfortunate name, I know. BUT, here's a question! What's your thoughts on Fiddleford? I think he's pretty neat!

—Cy Pher ⭐

An unfortunate name indeed... I am sceptical. That aside though, Fiddleford is a brilliant man who has accomplished many amazing things. His mind is like no other, and while he is riddled with anxiety, he's one of the sweetest people I've ever met. He's a joy to be around and it's a delight to be around him again.

McGucket? Yeah he’s fine. You need a better name, how about Ste Ve?

[skinnyscarlet]

Struggling with Anxiety and 4n4 fml

Hey guys I was if anyone has had the same experience or similar. I've Struggled with my body images since I can remember but I didn't start ⭐ving myself until I was around 16 and since then I was diagnosed with anxiety and that's getting really really bad and now I have locked in big time but because of my anxiety I feel bad for lying to people about eating and I don't like people worrying about me and when I was at work the other day my colleagues were telling off someone for ⭐ving themselves to lose weight for there incoming wedding and she wasn't even ⭐ving herself like I don't think anyone has noticed yet but I'm worried it's just a matter of time but when I'm at work that is the best time to ⭐ve because I literally just have water, black coffee and the white monster. The thing is I can't stop and don't want to stop and I'm also feeling the quicker I'm 6 feet under the better but I can't until I'm skinny fml 😭

[daintyca1s]

idk why you eat at all, you always feel horrible after, why not just ⭐ve you know you'll feel better

[iwantb0n3s]

New Set of Rules& reminders

No bread

No pasta

No sweets of any candy

Don't enter the kitchen after 5pm

Don't eat unless somebody is watching

No eating in bedroom

No snacks

Fast for at least 60hrs

Water!!

Black coffee and green tea allowed

Cravings are just that no need to indulge and ruin everything

Think skinny and positive :)

No spending any money until 1 gw

Remember why you are doing this

Be ana be happy

No weed (avoid the munchies)

No alcohol (not worth the calories)

Smoke a cigarette or vape

Throw away the food when possible

Lie about what you ate (you didn't)

Hungry? Have more water

Hungry? You're bored

Hungry? Not worth it

Hungry? Just don't

Nauseous and dizzy? Lie down and nap

Don't open the fridge or the pantry

No spending money on food

No eating in secret

⭐ ve MORE

Always leave some food on the plate

Small portions!!

Hungry? Go for a walk

Lie

In a week you can be skinnier or hate yourself even more

I want my skinny clothes to hang off of me

Stop eating you're getting all that greasy fat on your bones...

No fried food ofc

You really wanna eat? Have some boiled veggies or salad or fruit

Don't eat after 5pm

Don't eat before 3pm

Don't eat!

Eating leads to over eating and you don't want that

Keep your mind busy!

Do something with your hands

Get an hobby

Write in your ana journal

Look at thinspø whenever you're hungry

Look at your blob fat body whenever you think about cheating

If you cheat you're the only one who loses

Food is never a prize

Starvation is the goal

Don't you wanna wear a cute lazy outfit and look beautiful regardless?

You did it before you can do it again

Zero calorie soda is allowed (1 per day)

You can start Now or regret forever

You're Never hungry

Do you enjoy your tights rubbing together? No? Then food is not the solution

Don't emotionally binge it'll NEVER feel good

Don't eat today feel better tomorrow, eat today and lose your progress

A LOT can be done in a month

The less you eat the more he will like you back

Aren't you tired of hearing the word fatty attached to you?

Don't you wanna be thin and delicate?

Next time someone will hug you they'll notice your bones instantly and they'll be scared of hurting you

The fat on your body that you're hanging on it's not You. You're so much better than this.

Don't you have Discipline?

Don't you wanna feel in control?

Don't you wanna be better and Clean

Right now you deserve just one thing and that's ⭐ ving

Don't you wanna be like her? Bony and weightless?

The only way to feel better is to Get Worse

No need to purge or abuse lax if you Don't Eat

Don't you wanna stop counting calories? Then don't eat

Food will no longer be something on your mind

Food is Never the Answer

Food won't cure your depression but only make it worse

Do you get some kind of happiness after you binge? No you don't so stop poisoning yourself

Your collarbones are hiding behind all that disgusting fat

You're hungry? Think again and look at your fat gross face don't you want high cheekbones and skinny face?

You Don't Need Food you're Better than That

Food=pain, shame, guilt, anxiety, depression, loneliness, hiding behind baggy clothes, dragging a fat heavy body wherever you go

⭐ ving= happy, dizzy, clean, skinnier, morning skinny that lasts all day, clothes fitting better, happier outlook on life, feeling less shy, feeling in Control, feeling better than others, seeing the number go down, being pretty from every angle, wear tank tops and short shorts without shame!!!!

[sonalirichard]

🔮 🎶🏆♥️🔥 👑 🎁 ‌MR. IN🌹SR🌹JI🌹

I SUGGEST THAT WE FORGET & LET GO OF PAST MISUNDERSTAN

DINGS ✅ 🙏 😇, RESENTMENTS , DISAPPOINTMENTS , REGRETS & CONFRONTATION 💝🙏🔥 ☯️ 🔥🙏💝

LET"S UNDERSTAND

& FORGIVE EACH OTHER 🙏🎶🔔 ...

LET"S MAKE UP & HUG 💏 🫂 ...

LET"S GET BACK TO EACH OTHER & COME TOGETHER AS ONE ♥️♥️...

GOD 🕊 CREATED OUR COUPLE , WE WERE BORN

& CREATED FOR EACH OTHER⭐⭐

WE WERE , ARE

& WILL BE TOGETHER 💘💘

DESPITE EVERYTHING 💯🏆

IT"S MEANT TO BE , IT"S OUR DESTINY ~ MAKTUB 🕉 🕉 🕉

RESISTING THIS INCREDIBLE ATTRACTION , CHEMISTRY & MAGIC 🔥 🎶 🔮BETWEEN US IS ABSOLUTELY USELESS & IMPOSSIBLE 💯‼️

EVEN AFTER THOUSANDS OF YEARS , WE WILL BE TOGETHER ♾

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART ♥️ & SOUL , DO NOT MUFFLE THEIR VOICE 🔊 🎶 , DO NOT SUPPRESS YOUR DESIRES 🔥, DO NOT FORBID YOURSELF TO LOVE 💘💘💘

🦚 IN YOUR LIFE , YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN ANOTHER NEW CHANCE TO LOVE & BE LOVED ♥️♥️ ~ TAKE THIS CHANCE🏆, TAKE A STEP TOWARDS YOUR LOVE🌹

& FIND THE TRUE HAPPINESS 🌟🌝

YOU"VE BEEN DREAMING OF FOR A LONG TIME 🙏 🎁 💎...

WE NEED TO HEAL 🌱🌳🍀 OUR BROKEN 🥀🥀

HEARTS 💔💔, RESTORE FULL COMMUNICATION & REACH A NEW LEVEL OF OUR RELATIONSHIP ♾

✅ YOU UNDERSTAND , THAT IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO COVER THE SUN WITH YOUR PALM & MAKE IT STOP SHINING 🌞🖐💯

YOU CAN"T ENDLESSLY POSTPONE YOUR PERSONAL LIFE FOR LATER , BECAUSE THIS "LATER" MAY NEVER HAPPEN , BUT LIFE WILL FLY BY LIKE A COMET ☄, AND THERE WILL BE NO ONE LEFT AROUND 🎭😢💔

HOW MANY SONGS 🎙🎵 🎼

HAVE BEEN WRITTEN ABOUT IT & THE SONG IS WRITTEN FROM A REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE 🎶...

AS LONG AS WE ARE ALIVE , EVERYTHING CAN BE CHANGED FOR THE BETTER 💯 , AND NOT TO AGREE THAT THIS IS ALL , IT"S ALREADY OVER , AND THERE"S NOTHING MORE TO DREAM

ABOUT 🆕️‼️🆙️

WE ARE BOTH LIBRA ⚖ , AND WE NEED TO FLY LIKE AIR 🌤🕊🌍

📛 ⚕ ♻️ DON"T WAIT ANOTHER 1,000 YEARS ,

ACT NOW ✅ , CATCH YOUR BIRD OF HAPPINESS 🕊

& FIND A NEW LIFE WHERE THERE IS LOVE ♥️

JOY 🌝 HARMONY🌈 ABUNDANCE & PROSPERITY 🌞🎁

YOU ARE AN EMPEROR 👑 ,

A LEADER ✋✌,

A WINNER ♾🏆🎯

YOU CAN DO ANYTHING LIKE A GREAT MAGICIAN 🔮🪔🌠 ~ FULFILL YOUR CHERISHED DREAM 🌈 🍎🐬

& BECOME HAPPY WITH YOUR BELOVED

WOMAN 💘💃💝

THE DOOR IS OPEN FOR YOU ~ COME IN , LOVE & BE HAPPY 😇♥️🎶

YOUR S 💋💋💋

🌹🕉 ☯️♥️☯️ 🕉🌹

[controllo-totale]

Hey so I need moots and someone to talk to because I'm going insane, it's so lonely being @n@ and 18+ because I can't ⭐ ve and go to school I've to go to work and pay expenses... So I would really love someone to talk to about how life is going that is 18+, 24 and older would be better !

[sk1nnylittlb1tch]

I'm almost done cleaning my depression room!!

idk why but whenever I st⭐ve I take way better care of myself bc when I'm not st⭐ving, I don't shower, brush my teeth, or anything hygienic. Anyways I'm gonna go to bed & I should finish cleaning tmrw :D

[ana-mp3]

INTRO <3 | TW: ED mentions

DISCLAIMERS:

This blog is meant to serve as an online diary and a place where I can talk about my struggles (ED, depression, ADHD, etc.). If you do not like what I post please BLOCK, DON'T REPORT.

I am NOT promoting EDs or any mental health issues I talk about.

I am very pro-recovery

ABOUT ME:

Hello! My name is Lilian, but I go by Lili. I'm queer (I really don't know TT. I'm either bi or a lesbian). I am a minor (6teen). I used to be @Lazyana (but got termed :/). I'm not sure what else to talk about.. so here are some of my interests :D. I LOVE music! I love listening to music, playing instruments, and singing! (Although I am terrible). I can play the flute, and I'm learning the piano and guitar :D (All incredibly half-assed I should mention). Along with music, I quite enjoy Philosophy/Ethics, Psychology, Geography, Vexillology, and Etymology! (Typing this out I just now realize how boring I am).

ABOUT MY ED:

(Be advised, this is very ramble-y and typed at 03:30)

I have atypical @nørexia (Which diagnostically isn't that different from regular @nør3xia). It's all the same criteria, just not being underweight. I've never received any type of treatment/medical attention for my ED. I've had an on-and-off ED for a few years now, but it got serious this year. I've always been insecure about my body, ever since elementary school. I have always been taller and a bit bigger than all my friends (It didn't help that they were/are all just naturally very skinny and short) and so I've found my ED journey(?) extremely lonely and isolating. An ED in itself is already a deeply lonesome experience, but with the addition of all your friends (ever) being the standard you so desperately wish you were just throws in new emotions. Sadness, anger, jealousy, guilt, shame, and knowing that they would never (truly) understand what you're going through. (I'm not saying that skinny people can't have ED's. I'm saying that they wouldn't understand what it's like to be bigger with an ED). I haven't told anyone about my ED for a few reasons. 1) I don't want to be a burden that they have to watch over. I don't want them to be worried about me constantly (I also don't want to feel pressured to eat). 2) I am not at the results I want yet. I've always had a thought in the back of my mind, "You can eat/get better/get help/etc., once you're skinny" and surprise surprise, I'm not there yet. 3) I just know they wouldn't/couldn't understand. They all are skinny/short/really pretty, blessed with fast metabolisms. How could they understand that I have to ⭐ve myself to get skinner. How could they understand that I hate how I look so badly, that I need to punish myself for it. How could they possibly understand my obsessively toxic mindset, where I'm acutely aware of everything I've ate and the calories I've consumed (I can't forget what I've ate until I log it). 4) They'd never look at me the same. Sure, they wouldn't judge me for it, but I'd always have that target stuck on my back forever. I'd always be 'the girl with the ED'. 5) This is one of my most vulnerable secrets I'm keeping. I can barely communicate with my friends about significantly less intense mental health issues, let alone a god damn ED.

STATS:

SW: 178lbs/80kg

CW: 160.6lbs/73kg

GW1: 154lbs/70kg

GW1: 147lbs/67kg

GW2: 140lbs/63kg

GW3: 132lbs/60kg

GW3: 127lbs/58kg

UGW: 110lbs/50kg

height: 5'8/173cm

That has been that <3. (Again please don't report, It really doesn't help in any way :( please just block me)

[storieschats]

ACOTAR reactions: ACOTAR grand final leaves only one question: is being in Feyre's head what anyone really wants?

Note: Check out previous reactions here. Feel free to comment, reblog, like and talk to be about books whenever! We have finished the first book everybody!!!

Book 1 Page 419 of 419

What's happened so far: So there were the 3 tests: in the first one she had to kill a worm, dune style, in the 2nd she had to solve a riddle that she only managed with the help of Rhysand with whom she made a deal at the end of the 1st task that she would spend 1 week with him every month in exchange for him healing her from the wounds she got from killing the worm. Then the last task is to kill two innocents plus Tamlin and she realises she can do it because Tamlin has a heart of stone and won't die. So she wins the tasks but doesn't break the curse because loopholes buttt after being tortured for a while she discovers the solution to the riddle and manages to break the curse but dies so to save her, the high lords turn her into a high fae. She and Tamlin return to the mansion. The end!

What I thought: Honestly, it was a strange book for me in terms of whether or not I enjoyed it. I think my highlight was the last session when I was on page 300, these last pages were meh for me I guess. But I think in general it was...ok.  Yes I think in general I liked it.

Positive points:

I had never read anything with fairies or fae before so this was a nice novelty for me! I really liked when weird and unusual fae came into play, the ones that actually make you think of real world mythology.

I really like that point in stories where people are taken into this magical world and learn things and have to adapt so I liked the part where she lives in the mansion and starts to learn more about this whole world that was unknown to her!

Amarantha was a good villain! Rest in hell, my girl!

I liked that Feyre killed those innocents in the last task. Most books would have found a way for the main character not to do the ‘dishonourable’ thing and I liked that this one went against expectations. It took a chance and I think it became better for it.

Negative points:

Feyre makes stupid life decisions and is annoying. Like don't go after the Suriel, Feyre goes after the Suriel, don't go to the festival, she goes to the festival, don't leave, she leaves, don't come back, she comes back. And I think that made me dislike Feyre a bit. Also, I kind of knew the answer to that final enigma, or at least I had a better guess than her for god's sake. I found her a bit insipid too to add to the annoyances... Poor Feyre anyway, she has characteristics I like: she's brave and kinda ruthless, but still not my most beloved character.

Tamlin has spent the whole book being a nice person and I'm 99.9% sure he's going to do a 180° in the next book which is annoying me beforehand because he gives 0 indication of having some horrible hidden personality trait in this book. I wish romance books could be ‘and well I found out at the end of it all, that when our lives weren't in danger I didn't like him that much so it was off to the other guy I liked better’ instead of ‘and then I found out he was a controlling serial killer who probably cheated on me and so my only option is the other guy’ ugh.

Final Star Rating: ⭐⭐⭐ I think it just about reaches 3 stars for me

Predictions and final thoughts: Obviously, Tamlin is going to be horrible in the next book and she's going to fall in love with Rhysand in those weeks that she lives with him. The next villain should be King What's-his-name who wants to reclaim the human kingdoms.

The book says that Amarantha dies and it even shows her body and everything but it's fantasy so who knows.

The deal was a bit weird just because why? Why force her to go there with us if we are not the bad guy. Also I had heard of the lap dance while drugged scene on the internet and I didn't know it was in this book/series but honestly with the context it's not.....very..... horrible. Like I think I realise what he was doing... I think.

[n0va342]

Ana loves you,and she wants to make your life better, but she can only do so if you ⭐ ve, please ⭐ ve so Ana can make your life better